Wednesday, May 31, 2006
The Power of Denial
It talked about the sacred power of feminity. In an entirely different context, women all over the world have been fighting for their rights. Some men jeered, "If you want to be equal, then pay for your own meals. Help support the family. Earn your own keep. Learn to open doors for yourself..."
Stupid assumptions. I know. Girls are not as dependent as you think. They just want to be pampered and to be loved.
I believe in equality of sexes. In the world of ours, there's no clear distinction on what's right and what's wrong. Definitions guide our beliefs, but it doesn't help us in making the right decisions. To me, equality of sexes means to be treated fairly and just.
There was this Brazilian girl, Maria, who was disappointed with the outcome of her love life. She had always dreamt of meeting a rich, dark, handsome man (all girls do mah) who would take her away from her small village, most importantly, out of poverty. Her first crush was this boy who walked the same route to school with her. One day, he approached her with this lame opening line, "Can I borrow your pencil?" She ended up running away.
Another guy left her for her friend because she didn't know she had to open her mouth while frenching. She later learnt masturbation can bring her to a new high. To her, it was even better than sex.
Events changed her life. She turned into prostitution, learning to service men. But she realised it wasn't sex per se men were looking for, but for the knowledge they could pleasure a woman. Some of them just wanted company, someone to listen to their problems.
Her destiny changed one day when she met a painter. This story was captured in a book, Eleven Minutes, by Paulo Coelho. It's not just a story about prostitution but about life. The book was aptly titled 'Eleven Minutes' because like everyone else, we go through life everyday, and end up spending only 11 minutes having sex.
Maria kept a diary, where she tried to define what is love when she didn't allow herself to. Life's full of ups and downs. We never know what would be the outcome of our decisions made today. We would never really know if the decision made today is right or wrong. Yes, we may end up celebrating life, or we sulk when it turned out to be the worst decision. But I say, let us make the most appropriate decision.
Appropriate decisions may not define what's right or wrong, but sometimes they seem to be the best option in that particular time frame, or circumstances. There are many of us who are risk-taking, some may be risk averse. It all boils down to how much do we desire that outcome. Do we dare to fight for what we want?
There are many conclusions I can draw from this post. Don't take things at face value, but think and evaluate. Eleven Minutes provide insights about life. There are so many paragraphs I would like to share, but life is not just about quotations.
We grow up, we fall, we pick ourselves up. Nature of life says we watch friends fall and disperse, loved ones would die, we end up lonely. I could have continued to dwell on how I was raped when I was 10. But I choose not. Why should I let his '11 minutes of fun' scar me? How long more do I want to be sad? My destiny is not the past but it lies in how I view my future.
There would be a significant one in your life. No one can survive being alone. We live in a community. Humans are made to interact. We need someone to be the witness of our lives.
Men are lacking in nature. No one is ever complete. The lady in my life would be the one who support me and my decisions, the one who would be my helper. I need someone to complete my lackness. In the same way, I would complete her.
I believe in the power of prayers. Praying together as a couple could take a relationship to greater heights. For God would mould us, bless us, and make us whole.
Back to work.